“What we have once enjoyed, we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.”--Helen Keller

Grief and Loss


Grief is most often associated with the death of a loved one. This is a massive loss, to be sure, but grief can also follow many other events, such as divorce, the end of a friendship, job loss, a move, infertility or miscarriage, illness, lost opportunities, or planned and unplanned life changes. Moreover, each person experiences grief and loss differently. In the midst of your grief, you may feel angry one moment, numb and shocked another, and crying uncontrollably the next. It is completely normal to experience a range of emotions (and in no particular order) in the days, weeks, months and years following a significant loss. In fact, grief can hit hardest after the first 6 months, when the steadfast calls and offers for help from friends and family began to cease as loved ones return to their normal lives and routines. On the other hand, the foundation of what is “normal” and “routine” for you has been completely rocked. You are left to pick up the pieces of your shattered life as you try to adjust and move on. A loss can be life changing, but until you have experienced a significant life event, you may not understand how your life will change.

Yet there is hope. Though grief and loss can be incredibly challenging, you can get to a better place (a healthier and happier state) with the proper support and help. While there are many ways to work through grief, therapy can be one very effective way to address painful emotions and unhelpful thinking patterns. When working with a client who has experienced a significant loss, I treat each person individually, catering my care to their specific needs. It is important to me that I respect and honor each person’s unique loss. I try to provide a warm, compassionate space in which people can feel comfortable sharing their story or just crying if they need to. I also often incorporate EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy to help clients process and move through their grief, particularly when they feel stuck and hopeless. I have found this to be a very powerful, therapeutic approach.

While grief is something we all experience in life, we do not have to be alone on this bumpy, emotional journey. Having experienced my own significant losses, I feel I can especially empathize and relate to my clients’ experiences. One of the reasons I love doing grief work is because I am deeply touched and inspired by my clients’ resiliency and strength. It is profoundly moving to witness the growth that occurs when individuals are ready to walk through their pain and truly process their emotions and beliefs. And perhaps, if you feel we are a good fit, I can be that person to walk beside you on your path to healing.

“That’s the thing about pain. It demands to be felt.”--John Green, The Fault in Our Stars